Toxic relationships are like poison to the soul because they literally weigh us down emotionally, physically, and psychologically, making us feel worthless, unloved, and unsecured in such a relationship. There are many things that causes such in relationships, but regardless of where they play out, my opinion is to distance ourselves from such relationships in order to avoid the worst. I've been in such relationships in different phases of my life, and neither of them left a good impact on me.
Trust me, the last thing anyone wants is to be in a toxic relationship, because it'll literally change our lives and emotions for the worst, bringing us to a point where we won't be stable enough to reason properly. The best solution in such a situation is to seek help, try to commune with the person to come to a consensus if it's someone you can commune with, or just distance yourself as much as you can.
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THE WRONG GUARDIAN
While growing up, I stayed with my grandparents, who are a nice set of people, but I had some uncles who are some of the worst guardian a child can ever grow up with; they literally treat me anyhow they dim fit, even if I do nothing to offend them, and these led to me being depressed, and I bet this is one of the reasons why I was an introvert because I literally have no one to commune with because they'll find something to pick on me for, so I stayed indoors and mostly.
I can remember one of they went for the army recruit training and by the time he came back from their camp, this guy uses almost every single rigorous training and exercise he went through to give me punishment each time I do a split mistake within the house, these something's made me wonder if I'm just a house help and never related to them, on several occasions I always think within my mind to run away from home but then I think on the impact such will have on my grandparents, so I stayed.
In the end, I had to beg one of my other aunts to let me stay with her since my school is closer to her house, and that's why I got to escape that toxic relationship. It really affected me mentally, even academically, because I couldn't concentrate on my studies, but, lucky for me, things were better with my new guardian.
INHUMAN BUSINESS PARTNER
About a few years ago, I and a friend of mine decided to start up a business that we hope to continually reinvest our interest in until it is so great that we can get the necessary tools that'll help us do the trade ourselves. The business was to purchase foodstuffs from Benue State, which is one of the places where you can get the cheapest food items, and then send them to Lagos and distribute them to market women in areas such as mile 2 and mile 12.
We spoke to the market women in both states and were also able to secure a truck on loan, which we hired to help Covey the goods from both states. The foods we deal with are yams, beans, fruit, pepper, and others, but along the line, my friend started acting up, looking for various excuses to take money from our interest, and even lying that I agreed to some expenditure that I knew nothing about whenever we're doing our income review.
He makes me look mad sometimes because I'll be wondering if I'm sick or suffering from a memory loss. I later discovered he has been spending most of all our earnings and isn't paying dues such as truck maintenance and much more. He was in charge of expenditure while I supervised the distribution of the goods to the retailers, who then sell them to the final consumer.
About a year into the business, when we ought to meet to restrategize and vet all of our income down the years, I realized almost all of the money had been stolen by my friend. It was a disheartening experience for me, so I flied up, but he beat me up in the process, and that was how both the business and our friendship came to a halt.
I LEFT THE RELATIONSHIP LONG TIME AGO
After some years in my relationship with my ex-girlfriend, we were involved in a heated argument. I can't remember what it was all about, but not long into the argument, I saw her ran into the kitchen and bring out a knife. Threatening me, I literally went on my knees and begged her, even admitting what I didn't do, and right there I already made up my mind that I could never settle down with her.
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That's about all I have to say about my experience in toxic relationships in different phases of my life. I hope you enjoyed the read and learned a lesson from my experience.
NB: I make use of Quillbot grammar checker features to help correct some of my grammatical and punctuation errors after writing my content by myself.
Thanks so much for your time, have a blessed and productive day.
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