AN INSIGHT INTO THE VARIOUS WAYS I WAS MISJUDGED BY OTHERS

People in our world assess one another for many reasons depending on how people who share similar features have treated them in the past. The extent to which people in this generation stereotype is mind-boggling, and it's so disheartening when others draw conclusions about me without getting to know me well enough to assess my personality without using stereotypes as an assessment of my personality.

When people assume things about my character based on one or more characteristics I share with people who have committed vile acts, it's never a nice experience. I can recall encountering two of these stereotypes on a regular basis for a number of years. Despite my best efforts to explain that I'm unique and nothing like what they imagine me to be, this usually made the situation worse because they would then go on to say that's what people who engage in such behavior typically say to defend themselves.

Below I listed the three major stereotypes I get from people on a regular basis;

• PHYSIQUE/STATURE: One of the frequent ways people stigmatize my personality and describe my character without listening to me is by my appearance. People assumed that because I am tall, gallant, and physically fit, I am a playboy who frequently uses my body to seduce different women and manipulate their emotions. However, despite my best efforts to let people know that I am one of these people, they continue to imply that I am instead. Although it's depressing, I've learnt to rise beyond it.

• PERSONALLY TRAITS: People frequently caricature me based on certain characteristics of my personality features. People have labeled me as someone who will be cruel and retain grudges since I am an introvert who rarely speaks. They made this statement because they believed that my silence, the majority of the time, implied that when someone offended me, I might not inform them but instead secretly despise them. This isn't true cause I try to address any disagreements I have with someone right away so my conscience is clear.

• MY NAME: One of the frequent causes of people misjudging me is my name, Victor. It's a common misconception that all Victors are womanizers and frequently cheat on their partners. Since several of my other pals, who are also named Victor, are genuine womanizers and frequently manipulate the emotions of their partners, I can't really blame them for this. Despite this, I'm not one of those people. I was a straightforward person who would be devoted to anyone I labeled my lover even before I broke up with my ex and vow never to enter another relationship again.

HOW IT MAKES ME FEEL

These are the various things: I was misinterpreted by others, they were never nice, and once this occurs, I typically feel horrible about myself. There are times when I wish I could simply apply for a name change at the court; perhaps then people would admire me instead than pass judgment on me based on stereotypes. I often wish I were an extrovert who speaks a lot and enjoys being around large crowds because that would prevent me from being mistaken for someone who is harsh and unforgiving.

That's about all on how I battle stereotypes and get misjudged by others. The write-up was inspired by the Hive Learners community; please read Kronia's post to get the full details.

Thanks for reading through, have a blessed, relaxing in. and productive weekend.