A Valuable Lesson from My Mother: Navigating Children's Requests with Wisdom

There are lots of lessons to learn in order to be good parents to our children, and there are various ways and avenues from which life lessons can come. We shouldn't shy away from any opportunity to learn new things that help us become the best version of ourselves. Today I'll love to share a valuable lesson I learned from my mother about handling all of our children's requests, and I hope this will help someone.

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While growing up, I've had a lot of demand, just like my other siblings, and during such a period, it's always painful to request something and not get it, but then it's understandable that I wasn't from a well-to-do family, but they should at least make us, the children, understand and reduce our demand. Well, I guess children will always be children.

One thing my mother did then that I held dear to my heart was how she handled such a situation, because it's very common for parents to panic all around so they can meet the needs of their children. We all know how emotionally attached we parents can be to making sure the needs of our children are met, and that can be detrimental to our health if not properly handled.

One thing she did was to try as much as possible to remain strict, not overpampered, and to differentiate between what we really needed and those who just wanted to fulfill our desires. This can really be hard to find out sometimes, but my mom has a way of cunningly bringing out words from you to find out what really prompted you to demand what you're requesting from her.

She wouldn't even give you an insight that would help you know that's what she's trying to do, but via joking and normal conversation she brings up, before you know it, you'll open up to her unknowingly, and that way she gets to know maybe what you're demanding was just a result of peer pressure rather than what's needed to aid your growth academically and emotionally.

Although it's worthy of note that for this to be easily achieved, you must be the type of parent who's friendly and has a solid parent-child relationship with your kids. One way or another, children will tend to open up to you if you've built that solid relationship from the onset.

Not giving a child all they need doesn't mean you don't love them, nor does it mean you don't have their best interests at heart. One just needs to find a balance in order not to strain yourself over petty things, although when you can afford it, you should get such items for them. As parents, we should also learn the act of saying no to our children, which will help them understand life gradually and know that not all they want can be theirs, and when something happens outside, they won't overreact but brave themselves for another opportunity.

I got to understand how my mom operated and inculcate the act, which I've gone on to replicate in dealing with kids, and I can say for a fact that it's been really helpful.

Thanks so much for your time. I hope this helps, and hopefully it'll come in handy for someone one way or another in the near future. Have a wonderful week ahead.